[마이데일리 = 고향미 기자] A red light lit up in the conversation between actor Oh Ji-ho and his wife Eun Boa.
On the afternoon of the 5th, SBS’Bronze Dream 2-You are My Destiny’ (hereinafter referred to as’Bronze Dream 2′), Oh Ji-ho and Eun Boa found an emotional coaching expert to learn how to communicate with the couple.
The emotional coaching expert who observed these conversations said, “The reason for divorce is not because of personality differences, but because of the way they fight. Four of them are poison. So the relationship broke down and eventually ended in divorce.”
He said, “The first poison is’blame.’ This means that the tone is’You!’,’What the hell!’,’Why!’ There is a second poison,’Defense,’ which puts a fire on the blame. This is’What did you do well?’,’If you are good, why am I doing this?’
He continued, “If I fight harder, I can’t convey my will and feelings well, and if a counterattack comes, a third poison’contempt’ comes out. This is treating someone younger or younger than me. “Give me a grasp”, “Hey!”, “You!”, disgusting glances without words, and rough expressions are contempt. And the fourth poison is “pile up”, but it’s treating people who don’t exist.”
At the same time, he informed that, “But in the way the two of us talk, we are using two of the four shortcuts to divorce, criticism and defense,” and Oh Ji-ho and Eun Boa were shocked.
Accordingly, the emotional coaching expert informed Oh Ji-ho and Eun-boa of the solution to heal the poison dissolved in the conversation,’How to convey me’ and’Acknowledgement’.