Everyone is worried. “How should I raise my child.” “How should I educate myself?” Most of us take our own life as a baseline. Ask your child to match it. Why? To me that seems to be the’right answer’. Because that seems to be’all’. But is that really the right answer?
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The older generation grew up receiving infusion education. I grew up receiving memorization training. So I am used to the correct answer given. But the younger generation or the younger generation is different. They are the generation who have to create their own answers.
There is a gap here. The education method parents received and the education method children should receive. Because the two are so different. “Then what should I do?” Today is the second edition following Professor Jae-Chun Choi. I asked Professor Hyung-Seok Kim, a ‘100-year-old philosopher’, how to educate children. On a larger scale, there are two questions. “What is the most important point in child education?” “How can I apply it in real life?”
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Hyungseok Kim (Yonsei University Philosophy Department) is 102 years old this year. Is that why? Even when he asked a fairly aggressive question in an interview, he didn’t look left or right. It was just to calmly explain his beliefs and philosophy. ‘Because you are over 100 years old, is it because everyone has become juniors? Is it because there is no need to notice.’ I felt like that.
In the Bible, there is a scene where Jesus washes the feet of his disciples at the Last Supper. However, that passage does not appear in the Gospels of Mark, Luke, and Matthew. It is recorded only in the Gospel of John, which is said to have been recorded in the later stages of the four Gospels. The more you think about it, the more you have question marks. The passage where Jesus washes the feet of his disciples at the Last Supper must have been a scene that the disciples will never forget. Nevertheless, it is completely missing from the Gospels of Mark, Luke, and Matthew.
This often leads to controversy. On the one hand, “the Bible record is without error, even one letter. Everyone is 100% true. “You have to believe unconditionally,” and the other side said, “This is a story that occurred after Jesus’ death. Not a historical fact. That’s why it appears only in the Gospel of John.” Professor Hyung-Seok Kim is a Christian. What did he say about this?
Professor Kim replied: “What do we need to know as we read this passage in the Bible? Is that a historical fact? Is it real or not that Jesus washes the feet of his disciples? Do you know about him and fight him? I don’t think.” Then what is Professor Kim’s emphasis on? “The really important thing is to know the heart of Jesus washing the feet of his disciples. That’s the point. So take this story out loud.”
#Landscape 2
When people argue over small things, he points to’big things’. Why was that possible? Because of the discerning eye. This is because there are the big pictures and the’big eyes’ that point to the point. So I became more curious. What is the’child education method’ that Professor Hyung-Seok Kim sees? What is really important when teaching children? He is also an educator who has taught students all his life in the denomination. So I asked a question.
- Many parents struggle with their children’s education. Because we don’t know which one is the’right answer’. Is there a really important point in your child’s education?
- “There is a point. That’s what parents value their children’s freedoms. ”
- Child’s freedom, why is it so precious
- “When we love someone, what do we love? Is that person’s money or honor? When parents say they love their children, what do they love? Is the child’s grades or talents? Have you ever answered here. You have to think about this.”
It was an unexpected question. Parents all love their children. But this question is very strange. ‘I love my child, but what do I love about my child?’ It’s a question that we seldom ask. Professor Kim said, “There are conditions when you say you love someone. What is the first and most important condition? When we meet these conditions, we can truly love someone.”
- What is the condition.
- “I value that person’s freedom. I love the other person’s freedom.”
- We want our children to meet their parents’ expectations. When expectations are met, you will love your children more. I think the child is growing well. But the professor tells me to love’children’s freedom’. Why should it be?
- “I lived in Pyongyang under communism for two years before the outbreak of the Korean War. As I lived, there was no love in a communist society. Do you know why? Because there is binding on freedom. How can you love the other person when you are bound by the other’s freedom. The same goes for children.”
#Landscape 3
As I listened to the answer, the’first button’ came to my mind. Just as there is a first button in everything in the world, there is a first button in children’s education. If you pierce it well, you will be able to see the rest. I thought so. Loving a child’s freedom. That’s the’first button’. Still, the question mark remains. So I continued the question.
- He said the freedom of the child is important. Specifically, what is that? How can I cherish my child’s freedom?
- “Freedom is a choice. You must give your child the freedom to choose. ‘Do this! It’s not like’Do that!’ What would you do?’ You have to give them freedom of choice like this.”
- What happens if you give them freedom of choice.
- “The child begins to develop muscles. It is the muscle of your mind that will go through your life. I often give lectures between Seoul and provinces. I also listen to other people’s lectures. The speaker usually concludes at the end. This is something like this, and that is that. So do this. We conclude this way. I don’t do that.”
- So what do you do.
- “It’s like this. That is that. I am like this. My friend looks like that. How about you. The choice is yours. I say this.”
- Why do you say so.
- “Because we value the freedom of our audience. The same is true for children’s education. Why do parents give their children freedom of choice? Because I love children. Because we value your child’s freedom.”
- What if you don’t give your child freedom of choice?
- “You have to make yourself choose your own job. Otherwise, the child’s ego will be lost. One’s own center disappears. When your child is very young, you need to protect it. When I grow up a little more, I go to kindergarten. Then parents and children go hand in hand. Like a teacher and a disciple go together. Until when will you go that way? Until puberty.”
- What to do after puberty.
- “With the child in front, the parents go behind. The choice is yours. Because freedom is about having a choice. Because mom and dad love you. In this way. I think there is love there.”
#Landscape 4
![Jean Jacques Rousseau, a French political thinker, philosopher, novelist and educational theorist in the 18th century. [중앙포토]](https://i0.wp.com/pds.joins.com/news/component/htmlphoto_mmdata/202102/17/68ec51ac-886f-46d9-93b3-2135b91de4fb.jpg?w=560&ssl=1)
Jean Jacques Rousseau, a French political thinker, philosopher, novelist and educational theorist in the 18th century. [중앙포토]
“Go back to nature,” said Jean-Jacques Rousseau, master of pedagogy. Humans are beings with free will from birth. Humans with free will, that is the most natural human being. So, “Care your child’s freedom. Prof. Hyung-Seok Kim’s message, “Give your children the freedom of choice,” was in line with Rousseau’s philosophy.
Professor Choi Jae-cheon, whom I met in the last episode, said, “Parents should graze their children by holding loose strings.” It was called’beautiful grazing’. While grazing, your child will go through all kinds of trial and error. It’s like going through such trial and error as a jewel that makes children grow.
Prof. Hyung-Seok Kim’s’Freedom and Choice’ is also the same. Through self-selection, children experience trial and error on their own. It is to let you experience all kinds of problems directly there. After all, it is a way to find the solution (solution) of life through the problems of life. It’s amazing. A quick question to ask, “What does your child love?” The more we think, the more embarrassing us. It’s an echo of “Take care of your child’s freedom” and “Love your child’s freedom.”
Written by = Reporter Baek Seong-ho, journalist specialized in religion [email protected], Photo = Reporter Kim Seong-ryong
