“It is possible to travel with my ex-husband’s lover.”

Bae Sung-jin, daughter of comedian Bae Dong-seong, is raising a four-year-old son alone after divorce. Bae Jin Bae, who was greatly hurt by her parents’ divorce as a child, is ready to do anything if the child can not feel lonely. So, for a child who keeps looking for his father, he makes me see him anytime, and even if he wants, I plan to travel with my ex-husband’s lover. It’s all for the child. However, is this kind of behavior for the child really helpful? Mental health specialists did not think.

On the 2nd, at SBS Plus’You Can Talk to My Sister’, Yu Eun-jung, a specialist in mental health medicine, pointed out to Bae-Jin Bae, “I can travel with my ex-husband lover,” as “a typical parent-centered thinking”. The specialist said, “From the child’s point of view, (parent’s opposite sex friend) accepts that someone has taken away the parent’s love.” “It is better not to disclose the parent’s opposite sex friend (even for the child) as the child is younger.” Revealed. Disclosing your parents’ opposite sex friends before your child is big enough is advice to be careful, as it can only confuse your child.

In addition, the specialist said to Bae-Jin Bae, who said, “We are helping the child to meet his father whenever he wants to avoid being lonely.” “It is better to make rules rather than do what the child wants.” “If you do that, and you don’t meet often, your child may think that'(Dad) is not interested in me.’ If you meet too often, your interest may be shifted to one side.” He added, “It is important to set the rules and give the child a sense of stability that can be predicted.” These are important stories worth listening to if you are a divorced family.

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